Over the last few months I have read various books and stories, of the fiction variety, about people who have a blog, tumblr, or some other social platform connecting with someone offline. Then the stereotypical becoming friends followed by falling in love. It makes me wonder how often it happens in real life since so may writers think it happens fairly often.
I think that if I were to meet someone online, I would like it to be that way. That may be due primarily to the fact that the thought of online dating sends a wave of anxiety through my body that I’d rather not deal with. Call me old fashion, but I want to meet someone in person and become friends. From there, we can fall in love or remain friends. I’m fine with either.
One of my friends has been trying to get me to do online dating. I signed up once. I may have left off one digit in my email address and only used my first name. I really just wanted to see how it was set up. I couldn’t even look around before the thought of what I was doing and that people would see that information scared me.
It might seem a little weird since I have this blog (+2), but it took me some time to get use to the idea. This is not my first blog. I don’t remember the year, but I think it was 2008, that I started a blog on blogger. I deleted it shortly after that. I didn’t like the idea of others reading it, but I didn’t see the point in not sharing it. So the only reasonable thing to do was to delete it.
When I started things I had stopped caring about people reading it. There was no name attached. At some point I time I got brave and put my name in the about part. I think it’s still there. I’ve thought about deleting it a few times when I put something really personal up there.
It’s so easy to be anonymous online. I can be whoever I want to be. It’s possible that everything I have written on this blog about my life is false and you’d never know. But I wouldn’t do that. I try to be honest. If I’m not being honest I’m probably being sarcastic. And that’s what scares me about online. You can be whoever.
I know that most people are fairly honest online, though they might play up the positive or embellish a bit. But at the core, people tend to be themselves. You never know who you’re talking to online even if the person is being honest. I don’t know, my mind just thinks too much at times.
I know at least 4 people who met someone online and got married. One of them just had a baby boy. Out of the 4 couples that come to mind, she is the only one who was already married when I met her. One friend signed up for a free trial, met him, then cancelled. I was in her wedding and they had a kid last year. The other two I went to grad school with. One of them also had a baby last year. Everyone’s having babies.
I know people who find happiness online. They found love. Me? I just want more friends. While I have more female friends, I tend to be closer to my male ones, blame it on having brothers. I just want more friends in my life. I want to meet people. I told my mom that if I’m still single by 30, I might consider online dating. Her response was about that still being young and not to do something rash. I had to point out that I said might consider. That only means thing about it.
I turn 28 on Wednesday. I thought by this time I would have been in a relationship that lasted over 3 months at least once. Or a relationship that I felt was real. Or one that didn’t end a month prior to it officially ending. I want love in my life. Is online dating a realistic option for me?
I don’t expect to have the love of my life read this blog, or one of my others, and decide to contact me so we can start our love affair. I don’t see myself reconnecting with someone on facebook, despite my friend telling me I should with my high school prom date after I saw him over Thanksgiving.
Online relationships fascinate me. When did it become the norm to meet online? There nothing wrong with it. It’s changed how we approach people offline. What happened to the art of saying “hello” and wanting to know someone’s name? I see more and more people approach the offline world of dating as they would online. Or I lack people skills.
Oh, I’ve concluded that I am an awkward dater. I must be. Considering how uncomfortable I get when someone asks me if I have a boyfriend, I’ve concluded the topic is just uncomfortable…unless I start the topic or I’m comfortable around you. And you lovelies, I am comfortable around.
So, online relationships. I like ours. I may not know you personally. And I only read some of your blogs, though I haven’t really read any in a few months, I feel somewhat close to you. I have shared my inner most thoughts and feelings. You know my secretes, but don’t judge me. That’s what I want in a relationship, though I wouldn’t mind a little more communication.
This post is officially longer than I thought it would be. I could easily keep writing, but I will save it for another day. You guys are awesome, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I really do love being able to talk to all of you. Have a good day, or night, wherever you are, lovelies.